Gay
Marriage Might ‘Destabilize’ Traditional Marriage
–Vermont Supreme Court
The Vermont Supreme Court says its
decision might "destabilize" the institution of marriage and affect it
in "unpredictable" ways. It acknowledges it has no idea what will happen
when it tampers with the basic foundation of our society.
As a result, the "family" as it
has been known for centuries in Vermont is no longer the cornerstone of
its society. It is only one of the many methods of raising children.
The Vermont decision has momentous
implications for Massachusetts mothers and families.
Massachusetts News
By J. Edward Pawlick, Attorney at Law
• Massachusetts has officially recognized and protected
its homosexuals – both the legislature and the judiciary have done so –
and is therefore in exactly the same position as Vermont was. The legal
logic that was used in Vermont would require that the SJC create
homosexual marriage in Massachusetts.
• Massachusetts courts have shown a strong desire
to protect the rights of homosexuals and will undoubtedly find a constitutional
right to homosexual marriage – when asked.
• A few lawyers with black robes (it was five in
Vermont) will be making these momentous decisions for millions of people
in Massachusetts.
• There is no law that the citizens of Massachusetts
can pass, whether by the legislature or by referendum of the people, that
will insulate the state from homosexual marriage if our Supreme Judicial
Court chooses to impose it. The only method that would accomplish this
would be an Amendment to the state Constitution.
• If two homosexuals can raise a child successfully,
why couldn’t a group of three do it even better? A columnist in Boston’s
homosexual newspaper, Bay Windows, raised that point last month
in an article, "Is Monogamy Normal?" She says that "polyamorists" have
250 web and in-person support groups. She noted a case in Time magazine
about a woman who lived with her daughter and two men. A grandmother petitioned
for custody. The columnist believes, "We all practice some degree of polyamory
in our lives, and it’s essential to our well being. Some of us should practice
even more than we do." Can anyone argue with that logic when we’ve all
seen children raised by an extended family of grandmothers, aunts and uncles?
• Can we logically deny that many people have successfully
been raised by three or four relatives? Is there any logical reason to
deny health and other benefits to those people? How about a commune? Where
will you stop?
• A basic decision about morality was made by the
U.S. Supreme Court in 1986. It said our laws are "constantly based on notions
of morality, and if all laws representing essentially moral choices are
to be invalidated under the Due Process Clause, the courts will be very
busy indeed." It refused to decide whether a state was wrong in making
the moral judgment that sodomy is a crime. It believes that we, the citizens,
are constantly making decisions about morality every day.
• What should we do about the intelligent, professional
adults who say that they help children by having sexual relations with
them? Can we prove with logic that these people are not correct? They will
argue that they are discriminated against and should be allowed to marry
and adopt children. The American Psychological Association caused a brouhaha
last year when it published a study which indicated that these people can
have a positive influence on a child. It said that we should eliminate
the use of "judgmental terms" such as "child abuse," "molestation," and
"victims." We should use neutral, value-free terms like "adult-child sex."
We should not talk about "the severity of abuse," but instead refer to
"the level of sexual intimacy." After great pressure, including a resolution
from Congress, the APA apologized for printing the study. The American
Psychiatric Association has also entered the fray by quietly changing its
diagnostic manual a few years back so that a person no longer has a "disorder"
simply because he "molests" children. To be diagnosed as "disordered,"
the psychiatrists look to the psyche of the adult. If the adult
does not feel anxious about the relationship with the child or if he is
not impaired in his work or social relationships, then he has no "disorder."
Look at one of the websites of these people at <www.nambla.org>.
• Now that lawyers have started making the fundamental
decisions about families, that legal logic must be continued by the courts.
Therefore, if Mary, Jane and Jean are raising two children and Jane receives
health benefits from Mary’s employer, how about Jean? How could we logically
discriminate against her and arbitrarily limit marriage to only two people
when she gets sick or deny her Social Security benefits when Mary dies?
• How about a man with two wives, Betty and Joan?
Can we give life insurance benefits to Betty and not to Joan?
• We’ve tried tolerance and acceptance for the 2%
to 3% who have unusual sexual practices, but that is not enough. Now, the
judges are telling us we must change the entire structure of society in
order to accommodate the few with these unusual practices.
• There is great division among homosexuals whether
monogamy is a rejection of the homosexual lifestyle. Many are saying that
group sex and anonymous sex are essential parts of a homosexual lifestyle.
• The "destabilization" of the family will be a fundamental
assault on the mothers who wish to nurture their babies and raise their
children with the help and support of the father. There are many women
who do have no support from the men who sired their children. A large number
of them are understandably angry and bitter and wish to change the system.
• If our values are going to be determined solely
by legal logic, the ultimate test of fairness will be that everyone – both
men and women – must work and the children must be raised by the state.
That is the only way we can be "fair" to everyone. This is what NOW and
the ultrafeminists have always demanded. As one of their leaders told the
New
York Times in 1968: "Any real change in the status of women would be
a fundamental assault on marriage and the family. People would be tied
together by love, not legal contraptions. Children would be raised communally;
it’s just not honest to talk about freedom for women unless you get the
child rearing off their back. We may not be ready for any of this yet,
but if we’re going to be honest, we’ve got to talk about it." NOW still
feels this way and it presented a brief to the Vermont court which urged
it to find for homosexual marriage.
• Another study that was published by the American
Psychological Association last year said that fathers are not "essential"
for children. It said they can even be a detriment because of the male
tendency to consume "resources in terms of gambling, purchasing alcohol,
cigarettes, or other nonessential commodities," which "increase women’s
workload and stress." The authors admit they have a strong political agenda,
"We acknowledge that our reading of the scientific literature supports
our political agenda," they said. The "agenda" is to create a socialist
state such as exists in Sweden. Their present concern is with what they
see as a "backlash" against "the gay rights and feminist movements." They
believe that any attempt to reintroduce the father into the American culture
through the use of marriage is "an attempt to reassert the cultural hegemony
of traditional values, such as heterocentrism, Judeo-Christian marriage,
and male power and privilege." The article was the lead story in the June
1999 issue of the American Psychologist, which is the only publication
sent to every member of the organization and which is used routinely to
espouse the viewpoint of the APA leadership.
• There are many questions to ask before we plunge
down the road of uprooting the basic foundation of most peoples’ lives.
The amazing fact is that all of this turmoil is being caused by 2% to 3%
of the population. We are seeing profound changes taking place. Do we understand
them? The most important point is what will this do to the stability of
the woman who wishes to stay at home with her children? The Vermont court
agrees that no one knows.
• A law, from either the legislature or by referendum,
would insulate the state from having to recognize a "gay marriage" or "domestic
partnership" that was performed in another state. This could also be accomplished
by an amendment to the state Constitution.
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