Proposing a "Truce" on Valentine's Day

            We will be proposing a "truce" on Valentine's Day, which is thought of as a time of special romance and affection between a man and a woman. It is strictly a private matter. Should gays also celebrate Valentine’s Day?

            We propose that the different factions of the same-sex marriage debate call a truce and set Feb.14, 2006, as a final “cease fire” on the issue. Both sides should celebrate and continue to think of Valentine's Day as an admirable state of being happy and at peace with one another. Hopefully, once and for all, we can end the public debate over the extreme ends of the same-sex debate.

            In the past, this newspaper has acknowledged that Boston's homosexual newspaper, Bay Windows, was an excellent publication with integrity, even though both of us have strongly disagreed with the other's beliefs about homosexuality, particularly in relation to what is taught to teenagers. That didn't mean we had to hate each other.

            They were the only member of the media we talked to inasmuch as they always reported what we said accurately, word-for-word. (They must have been recording our conversations, but I have never understood what is wrong with that. Should they have trained each reporter in shorthand? Why would that be any better? At least they got it accurately this way, instead of a reporter's scribbled, inaccurate "notes".) There was none of the spin that the other media, especially the Boston Globe put into its stories. We still won't talk to anyone else in the media. (Bay Windows was sold recently and we do not know the present quality of the paper.)

            Although we are on polar opposites of the gay issue with extremists also present on both sides, I believe we can find common ground for all but the extremists. Simply put, the majority of each side believes that consenting adults should be allowed to do what they want but leave the kids out of it. After all, any realist understands that that was true when Abraham led the Jews and when Jesus led the Christians. We are not going to change it.

            As for gay marriage, neither gay males nor the straight majority want it. The last thing that most gay males want is to be tied down to one person. Their desire is to party it up as often as possible. 

            It is that tiny group of lesbians (less than 1% of the population), who cannot quell their innate desire to nurture and and desire to have a home, who are pushing homosexuality. We saw that when Betty Friedan founded NOW about 1965 and lost it two years later because she would not endorse homosexuality. She was removed as president, with Gloria Steinem taking over. Those extreme feminists are still the ones behind the push for gay marriage in Massachusetts (and elsewhere) although they must do so quietly behind the scenes because they are no longer even welcomed at colleges.

           

            Our suggestions to end the gay marriage battle are:

(1) Whatever a person wants to do in the privacy of his or her own bedroom is his or her own decision.
(2) We must stop the “try it” programs in schools or other settings that target impressionable youth.

(3) The gay marriage struggle must be defused because very few gays really want it.

 

Not a Place for Groups

            If we follow the above, there will no longer be a place for groups to be active publicly on either side of gay marriage. This includes religious groups inasmuch as they have failed in our state, despite tremendous effort, to influence the debate.

            The Protestants came here from Colorado under James Dobson with his $120 million/year but didn't make a dent. The Catholics were unable change anything and the Jews appeared to be divided.

            But that does not mean that those groups should stop trying. It does mean that they must continue to struggle for what they believe, but they must educate their individual members so that they can enter the public arena as private citizens and promote their beliefs the same as everyone else. But if it appears to others that they are being led by anything other than their own private conscience, they will immediately lose credibility.

            This does not stop the churches from educating their own members in any way they wish.