Do All Gays Believe They Have to Stay That Way?

By Geraldine Hawkins
March 14, 2003

Stephen Bennett, whose mission in life is to show homosexuals that they can change, tells MassNews that he "would take extreme offense" if he were African-American to the comparison by the gay community of homosexuality to racial minorities.

"That is absolutely ridiculous," Bennett says. "No one is born homosexual. I am one of thousands of people who have come out of the gay lifestyle. It's like drug addiction or alcoholism. There is no proof showing that anyone is born homosexual. There is much more proof showing that no one is born that way.

"If the state of Massachusetts wants to do any good, it can do it by not granting special rights to homosexuals, which would encourage a destructive lifestyle characterized by loneliness, pain and promiscuity," says Bennett, whose organization Stephen Bennett Ministries is an outreach to homosexuals seeking release from "the gay lifestyle."

"I have been with well over 100 men, serially," Bennett says. "At the age of 28, my eyes were opened. I am now happily married to my wife Irene, and we have two children."

Bennett tells MassNews that the fight to legalize gay marriage is about a desire for homosexuals to prove to themselves and to the world that they are normal and accepted. "These people have still not come to a point of self-acceptance, and it'll never happen," he says.

Bennett says that the seeds of homosexuality are planted in childhood, through molestation, early exposure to pornography, a broken relationship with the same-sex parent, or a combination of all of these.

"These couples are like little children latching onto each other," he says. "They are playing house - that's all they are doing. Two men and two women do not fit together. It's not marriage, It's playing house.

"I had a broken relationship with my own father, and I sought the approval of other men," says Bennett. "I was never able to relate to other little boys, I felt more comfortable with girls, and I picked up many feminine qualities. Homosexuality is a never-ending search for completeness, and most homosexuals know deep in their hearts that it is a counterfeit and a sham."

Bennett tells MassNews that while many gay men have mostly female friends, women who turn out to be gay have been so traumatized by a male figure that they are deeply uncomfortable with men. "Many gay women have a hatred of men and despise them. They know how to protect themselves from other men being attracted to them."

Most of the couples who were in the Supreme Judicial Court on March 4th have been together for a number of years. "It's not the norm," says Bennett. "If the Bible said nothing whatever about homosexuality, then who would I be to say that it's wrong? But the Bible calls it a sin and an abomination."

Bennett says that he would urge the legislators to reject this change in the definition of marriage, which he says would further the decline in behavioral standards. "We've become a society of God-haters. This has opened up morality to being subjective."

Bennett says that he would tell the legislators: "If you pass this thing, you will pay the price for it. Who is to say that a few years from now, a polygamist couldn't go before the SJC and say: 'I love five women. What's wrong with that?' or 'I love my dog, I'm committed to this dog, I want to marry this dog,' or 'My horse means more to me than anything, I want to marry this horse.' That's how much we've digressed.

"Massachusetts is a state of anarchists," Bennett, who lives in Connecticut, maintains. "The legislature would be encouraging children to go down this path. The idea of same-sex marriage is ridiculous, unnatural, not moral. It makes a mockery of traditional marriage."

Two movies come to Bennett's mind when he considers the current mental and moral climate in America. The first is The Ten Commandments.

"Remember when Charlton Heston, playing Moses, brought the people the Commandments. But when he comes down from the mountain, they are breaking all of them. They've melted down their gold to make this calf, and they say: 'This is what we are going to worship!'

"We've done the same thing. We've taken God, thrown Him off to the side and said: 'We don't need you anymore.'

"Remember in The Poseidon Adventure, when Gene Hackman tries to get the people to follow him, but one of the sailors says, 'No, I know this ship backwards and forwards and that's not the way out'? Gene Hackman tells him, 'The ship has been turned upside down, and if you go that way, you will all go to your watery grave'? The people follow the sailor, and they drown.

"That's our nation's view of homosexuality. They have major funding and a major propaganda machine. We've been turned upside down.

"It breaks my heart that people have been so deceived. I've buried many boyfriends who are dead from AIDS.

"The 'priest scandal' should be an eye opener. This is the fruit of homosexuality."

Next week, Bennett will be with Dr. Laura Schlesinger addressing the New York state legislature about some of these issues. He is working on an outreach for next year called: "Project Massachusetts: Back to Basics."

"We reach people one soul at a time," he says. "One homosexual man or woman at a time."